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Steps To Process Difficult Emotions

Difficult emotions can be overpowering and overwhelming, turning even the most respected and successful person into a hot mess. Learning to process difficult emotions is no easy feat. It takes time, effort, practice, and determination.
Processing through difficult emotions doesn't have to be challenging.

Difficult emotions can be highly complex and tough to process. Difficult emotions are usually negative, such as anger, loneliness, sadness, jealousy, fear, rejection, or self-criticism. At face value, these emotions are challenging in nature. If these emotions are not processed, they can become destructive and highly harmful.

Negative emotions are a part of life and are impossible to avoid. Learning to process difficult emotions is crucial to living a happy and productive life. Processing difficult emotions is not a skill that comes naturally to all people.

Time, effort, and practice are required to effectively process difficult emotions. Below are the steps to take to effectively process difficult emotions.

Identity Numbing Behaviors:

Before learning to process your emotions, you must make sure you avoid behaviors that trigger emotional numbness. A numbing behavior is an activity you take part in to avoid facing your feelings. These activities can be done unconsciously or intentionally.

Common intentional numbing behaviors include video games, streaming videos nonstop, marathon tv or movie watching, food, drugs, and alcohol. The most common unconscious numbing behavior is over-committing yourself so you stay constantly busy.

There is nothing wrong with partaking in any of these activities, as long as they are done in moderation and as long as they are not being done to avoid processing your emotions.

Identify Your Emotions:

Most people do not fully understand how, where, and why their emotions are coming from. We base our emotional reasoning on an in-the-moment judgment call or brush the feelings off.

To process your emotions, you need to understand what your emotions are.

· How do they make you feel?

· Are there any changes to your physical body?

· Do you feel lightheaded, hot, cold, or dizzy?

· Are your hands clenched? Do you feel light as a feather or heavy like a brick?

· How would you describe your emotion to others?

We often clamp onto general emotions such as happiness, sadness, and anger. In reality, the emotion of “anger” can encompass frustration, annoyance, betrayal, or upset. Why are you feeling this way? What triggered your emotions? Learning to identify and understand your feelings will help you process them effectively.

What Are Your Emotions Telling You?

Emotions can offer great insight into our lives and help propel us forward. Emotions allow us to recognize what we may need at that moment. If you’re noticing you are constantly checking your social media pages and you feel anxiety if you’re not checking them nonstop, this could be your emotions telling you it’s time to take a break from social media.

If you’re feeling increasingly irritated by a coworker's comments, that could be your emotions telling you there is an underlying issue that should be investigated and approached.

Express Your Emotions:

Once you’ve identified your emotions and have time to determine their meaning, you need to express them. Expressing emotions looks different for every person. Some people express feelings by talking to friends, some engage in physical activity, and others create art or music. To fully process your emotions, you need to let them out.

Remember emotional outlets should always be a safe space. Engaging in numbing, harmful, or illegal expressions will only worsen the circumstance.

Difficult emotions can be overpowering and overwhelming, turning even the most respected and successful person into a hot mess. Learning to process difficult emotions is no easy feat. It takes time, effort, practice, and determination.

Identifying numbing behaviors, identifying your emotions, learning what your emotions are telling you, and expressing your feelings are the steps you need to take to truly process difficult emotions.

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